Moderator (Gaganpreet):
When people say that they are in love, they think they are in unconditional love. But still in most of the cases, it’s not working. It doesn’t lead to happiness. So Sadhguru, when is unconditional love truly possible? Sadhguru: See, when you say love, your experience of love means, you feel certain sweetness of emotion within yourself. Either by looking at this person
or this person or this person, we don’t know who stimulates this in you? It doesn’t matter who helped you. But essentially it happened within you, isn’t it? Yes? Did it happen only within you or was it in the air? I’m trying to clear this air (Laughter). Moderator (Gaganpreet): Combination of both. Sadhguru: Really? It was in the air? No. It only happened within you. Maybe what was happening within you
was so exuberant, you saw it everywhere. You are in love, you thought the flowers bloomed for you,
the birds are singing for you, the clouds are moving for you (Laughter) Hmm? All right. I don’t want to destroy all the romance, okay (Laughter)? But essentially it’s happening within you. It’s wonderful that you are experiencing
such sweetness of emotion, stimulated by somebody. You are using the other person as a key to open up
an experience within you essentially. I am asking you, why are you using a key
when there is no lock, when there is no door, when there is no any kind of barrier? It is just that you are a push-start machine. You know what’s a push-start machine? If you have owned an Ambassador,
twenty-five years ago, always you parked it on a gradient like this (Gestures). Because morning, two people have to push it. Moderators: Yes Sadhguru: If you park it like this (Gestures), nobody will come. Your family will not come out of the house. If it is like this (Gestures), somebody will come and push it. Now all the cars are self-start, many of them remote start. What does it mean? Technological upgradation! You are an institute of technology, all right? I am asking, would you like to
upgrade your technology that you are on self-start? If you wake up in the morning, you are overflowing
with joy and love and exuberance, by yourself. You don’t need anybody to stimulate you. Would you like to be a self-start machine? Moderator (Gaganpreet): Jee Sadhguru. Sadhguru: Then you must come to me, hmm (Applause)? Whoever is right now doing the love in the air. It’s fine with them, you don’t have to tell them anything. You say, “All right, it’s okay.” But (Laughs), it’s very important
you are a self-start machine. Otherwise, after some time,
you try to extract happiness from the other person. That is when these love affairs become
tedious and horrible, because you are trying
to extract happiness from the other person. No. Life should be like this. When it comes to joy, when it comes to love, when it comes to exuberance of life, you must be the source of this. Isn’t it? You must be the source of this. Well, other things are shared in life. There are two ways to enter into a relationship. One way is because
you want to extract something from somebody. Another way is because
you want to share something with somebody. These are two ways. If you are out to share, your life will be good. If you are out to extract, when they close the tap,
it’s going to get terrible and nasty. You have seen people
who thought they are absolute lovers, how terrible it becomes for many of them. Not because there’s anything wrong with them. Simply because you started off on the wrong footing, thinking this person is the source of my joy. No, no, no. Joy or misery, the source is within you. Yes or no? Whether it’s joy or misery,
the source is within you (Applause). It’s for you to decide. If you are a joyful human being,
they will also want to be with you. If you are in misery,
they will endure you for some time. Shall I tell you a joke? Are you okay? Moderator (Gaganpreet): Please Sadhguru… Sadhguru: On a certain day, Shankaran Pillai… (Laughter/Applause/Cheers) Hmm? What happened? …was walking in a park in the evening. Sunset time, he saw a young pretty looking woman,
sitting on a stone bench. You know the park benches? Moderators: Yes Sadhguru. Sadhguru: He also went and sat down,
settled down on the same bench. After some time he moved little closer. She moved little away. He allowed a few minutes and again moved little closer. She moved little away. Again he moved closer. Now there was nowhere else to go for her because she was at the end of the bench. She pushed him away. Then he waited for two minutes, just the sun to get to the right angle. Then he went down on his knees and he said, “I love you.
I love you like I have never loved anybody in my life.” Tch. You know a woman is a fool for love? And the sun was setting. If it was middle of the afternoon,
she wouldn’t believe a damn thing (Laughter). Sun was setting, the ambience was right,
and she kind of yielded. Nature took over. Things happened between them. Then he looked at his watch, It was eight o’clock in the evening. He got up and said, “I need to go, I need to go.” She said, “Where are you going, you said you love me?” He said, “My wife is waiting, I need to go” (Laughter)! Sadhguru: So, ‘I love you’ for a whole lot of people
is like that you know, open sesame you want to get something; maybe your needs are physical, psychological, emotional, financial, social or we don’t know what else. You have needs to fulfill, so, you use this mantra and it works. Half the time it works, okay. I am saying it’s important… it is important you know the joy of being loving because sweetness of emotion is needed for you, if you want to take really big steps in your life. If you do not have sweetness of love in your heart, believe me, if you try to take big steps in the world, particularly in India, you will end up frustrated and go to Canada (Laughter). In Canada, you meet only moose in most of the country, so, it’s okay (Laughs).

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  1. One person gets blinded, falls, and inevitably ends up facing death as the only option… I just dont get why? The universe is not benevolent

  2. The source of joy is in within you. Believe me stimulation is needed for the hormone to secert and life to blossom the way it should.

  3. Being an Indian living in Canada. All sounds good except "Canada" I met moose but also I met the most beautiful human beings in Canada. I cherish my being here in Canada

  4. “…Wake up in the morning; you are overflowing with joy, love and exuberance by yourself” – Sadhguru. Amazing how he simplifies the true things we all know but sometimes forget.

  5. How can someone who is a bachlor undestand love .like this sadguru.He is in contradiction with the phenomena that govern the rules of nature .A word to the wise .

  6. This guy is my guide in life! Everything he says makes sense on a logical level. Thank creation for him.

  7. Valious examples Sadhguru provides. They happen to us all the time, yet our limited minds can't reach out as far as his. We have eyes and don't see, have ears and don't hear.

  8. Sadhguru you’re amazing, love listening to your videos, you are a great teacher and master. ❤️🙏🏻

  9. Fall out of love could due to; both parties took each others for granted too many a times…and when 'taken for granted' becomes a norm … then you find the love you once have seem to vanish. In the absence of love, strange but true, in some cases, due to some misfortune, love can reblossom again … but in most cases it will lead to disaster. That's life, that's fate.

  10. Sadhguru you changed my life. I’m yet to believe god and guru, however your sayings are changing my perception of life 😇😇🙏🙏

  11. Interdependency is design of nature.. inside can’t exist without outside.. unless we become yogi we need outward support to live.. If we apply this concept being in relationships it ll not work.. but one thing is true we can minimise our expectations and give large place to others.. so that everything around us becomes pleasant.. we need dopamine to balance..we are trained to get it from outside pleasures..now we should learn how to produce this by ourselves.. Imagination is only thing I know to produce self satisfaction .. and tried this .. by this we lose relativity in social life.. Is there any other way simply where I can produce dopamine with any practices..

  12. Learn boys from me how to obtain your love , boys don't need to confirm, or make confession girls are smartest in this think like love.

  13. You are using other person as a key to open yourself(active emotion body). If you want to happy forever, you must be the source of happiness.

  14. I love you man , I watch your videos every night , you’ve taught me a lot about myself. Thank you for being the message I needed to hear I’m thankful for your wisdom.

  15. Waheguru Satnam 🙏very true love and peace is within -can’t expect someone else to fill you 🙏appreciate your clarity and directness

  16. Even the joy of love with a partner is experienced within you, isn't it so? How does this love come from the other person? This love comes from you in the first place!! It was all your love from the start.

  17. Sadhguru ‘I love you, I love you like I’ve never loved anyone before!’ Thanks to my Guru I’m on push start! I bow down to you
    🙏🙏🙏🦋💜☀️💜🦋🙏🙏🙏

  18. Show yourself some unconditional love that goes beyond limitations and boundaries. Be true to self before you are true to others.

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  20. What Sadguru says is absolutely correct 🙏But the thing is we have to understand it properly
    ఇంట్లో వుండేవాళ్ళు అందరూ బావుంటేనే సాధన సరిగ్గా సాగుతుంది.అందూకే అందరూ బావుండాలి అనటంలో రెండు ఉద్దేశ్యాలు.
    1. ఇంట్లో వుండేవాళ్ళు అందరూ
    క్షేమంగా వుండాలి
    2.వారంతా నేను చేసే సాధనకు అనుకూలంగా వుండాలి.

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  22. But if everything is within then why even have the desire to be in love and engage in partnerships in life? Especially physical desires and joys related to that intimacy cannot be fulfilled by himself. Easier in theory but quite complex when dealing with day to day life

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